Getting Along

Getting Along

Learning to get along with others is very important for children's social development.

What You Need

• No materials required

What to Do

• Give your child lots of personal attention and encouragement. Set aside time when you and your child can do enjoyable things together. Your positive feelings for your child will help him to feel good about himself.
• Set a good example. Show your child what it means to get along with others and to be respectful. Let her hear you say “please” and “thank you” when you talk to others. Treat people in ways that show you care what happens to them.
• Help your child find ways to solve conflicts with others. Help him to figure out what will happen if he shows his anger by hitting a playmate: “James, I know that Zoe took your truck without asking. But if you hit her and you have a big fight, then she will have to go home and the two of you won’t be able to play any more today. What’s another way that you can let Zoe know you want your truck back?”
• Make opportunities for your child to share and to care. Let her take charge of providing food for birds. When new families move into the neighborhood, let her help make cookies to welcome them.
• Be physically affectionate. Children need hugs, kisses, an arm over the shoulder and a pat on the back.
• Tell your child that you love him.

Don’t assume that your loving actions will speak for themselves (although they are very important).

Excerpt from: U.S. Department of Education, Office of Communications and Outreach, Helping Your Preschool Child, Washington, D.C., 2005